Cameron Diaz might be engaged.
To many that could just mean another celebrity getting married, but to others it’s a dissecting of another woman’s previous words on marriage and starting a family.
Rumors started to surface that Cameron and her boyfriend of seven months, Benji Madden, could possibly be engaged due to the fact that she wore a special ring on THAT special finger.
While none have confirmed the news, sources tell US Weekly that the lovebirds could be saying “I Do” sooner than we think.
The actress has always had a strong point of view about what marriage and children mean to her and has previously stated in in the November issue of Marie Claire, “I’m not looking for a husband or marriage or not, not looking for that stuff. I’m living, not thinking what I should or shouldn’t be doing with my life.”
Even going forward and adding her point of view on being a mother,
“We live in a society where everyone has kids, so they want other people to have kids. There is this culture that says celebrities are supposed to be just like us, so people think, ‘I have children, why doesn’t she?’ But I’m not going to do something because it’s expected,” stated the 42 year-old. “If a family happens, then it happens. If children come to me, then I would do that, but I’m not someone who feels like she has to do something because it’s expected.”
Great words that many amongst us in society and in the “regular world” actually think and feel. While we don’t have the same outlet as Cam and other famous starlets do to express their feelings, it does make me think: Why should they even have to defend their choice of wanting a family or not?
Why are people so obsessed with wanting to know if Eva Longoria will procreate or if Jennifer Aniston will get married again?
“I’ve always wanted a family. I believe in family,” stated Eva in a March interview with Parade. “But children are a product of love. So I don’t think I’ll go off and have a baby by myself. I do not have that need to procreate.”
Then we have Jen defending her womanhood and describing the pressures she feels to start a family by saying, “I don’t have this sort of checklist of things that have to be done, and…if they’re not checked, then I’ve failed some part of my feminism or my being a woman or my worth and my value as a woman because I haven’t birthed a child. I’ve birthed a lot of things, and I feel like I’ve mothered many things,” she confessed to Carson Daly in an intimate interview for “The Today Show.” “And I don’t feel like it’s fair to put that pressure on people.”
And it is not fair.
Personally, I have so many things and goals that I would love to accomplish in my lifetime, heck, even in the next 5 years. Starting a career, finding yourself, finding your one-true-love takes time and it’s ok to be selfish. It’s not a bad thing when you’re looking out for yourself and not harming anyone else.
I’m an appreciative, positive, and at the same time, ambitious woman. I have worked hard for what I have, want and need and I am too young to think about settling down, having children and leave behind a part of me just so that I can do what society tells me to.
Does that make me a bad person? A bad woman?
Listen, there are plenty of women who handle motherhood, a family and work phenomenally. I praise those women. They are superheroes in my book. But that’s not what I want at this moment in my life. That’s probably not what Cameron or Eva or Jennifer want, at least not at this exact moment and if it were the opposite, that’s ok too.
There words say stick around and forever live on the eternal Internet but why should they feel pressured?
Oprah once said in an interview with the Hollywood Reporter, “If I had kids, my kids would hate me … They would have ended up on the equivalent of the Oprah show talking about me; because something [in my life] would have had to suffer and it would’ve probably been them.”
While Portia de Rossi equated the pressures of motherhood to what one truly wants in life,
“There comes some pressure in your mid-30s, and you think, ‘Am I going to have kids so I don’t miss out on something that other people really seem to love? Or is it that I really genuinely want to do this with my whole heart?’,” stated the star in Out Magazine. “I didn’t feel that my response was ‘yes’ to the latter. You have to really want to have kids, and neither of us did. So it’s just going to be me and Ellen and no babies — but we’re the best of friends and married life is blissful, it really is. I’ve never been happier than I am right now.”
Ellen also added to the conversation by stating in People, “Honestly, we’d probably be great parents. But it’s a human being, and unless you think you have excellent skills and have a drive or yearning in you to do that, the amount of work that that is and responsibility — I wouldn’t want to screw them up! We love our animals.”
While at the same time other women don’t even deal with that question such as Zooey Deschanel in the Septembre 2013 issue of Marie Claire stating, “I’m not going to answer that question. I’m not mad at you for asking that question, but I’ve said it before: I don’t think people ask men those questions.”
I guess in the end if Cameron is engaged, congratulations, and if Eva finds that love that will want to make her procreate, awesome, and if Jennifer Aniston does get married soon with her fiancé Justin Theroux, perfect!
Ladies, do you, be you and don’t apologize for being a bit selfish (in a good way, of course).
